Saturday, July 30, 2005

female vs male bloggers

Female vs. Male Bloggers.

Not how they "naturally" differ by "genetics" or "instinctual orientation".

Rather: how they have been conditioned by social pressures and peer conformity enforcement, overt and subtle, to behave in recognizable and functional patterns for an evenflow of communication and subsequent action.

How women bloggers differ from "their male counterparts".


counter = to respond aggressively to a foe's act of aggression, to speak out against, to engage in verbal or physical combat with.

part = to separate ("part the Red Sea"), move things away from each other, divide, abandon or leave ("part with something or someone"), put distance between two items, make a demarcation zone ("part the hair"), a scripted speech or action ("actor's part in the play"), a divisible section, segment, less than the whole, a piece ("my favorite part of the story", "I paid my part of the luncheon bill, and left a tip for all of us").

Here we already face a monolithic obstacle: the language of contrary forces, conflictual context, militant stances firmly planted on slippery slopes slanting in opposite directions, but leading to the same inevitability.

For a male, is the female the "opposite" (antagonistic, enemy, foreign, alien) sex?

Or is she the "complimentary, congruent" sex?

And why the word "sex" when gender is more clinically correct?

"My better half" is a cry for help, the unmoderated consciousness halving, thirdenizing, fourthifying itself in an auto-massacre that can only escape description by pretending to be exactly what it actually is.

Boy vs. girl in synthesis and analysis, not "boy vs. girl" in conflict or opposition.

Not even setting one set of observed behaviors "against" the other.

The female behaviors will not be compared to the male behaviors but will each be seen as separate information sets that are not commenting, as investigative concept units, on each other.

Not: boy bloggers do this, BUT girl bloggers do that.

Rather: boy bloggers do this usually, AND here's also what girl bloggers do usually.

Not rules: "gentleman bloggers follow these rules, and lady bloggers have this set of rules to obey".

Rather: "blogger guys tend to ________________" and "blogger gals tend to ____________".

Not: "that's a feminine blogging style" and "this is a masculine post writing technique".

Rather: "most lady bloggers seem to write in ____________ tone" and "most gentleman bloggers tend to write in ____________ tone".

Not: "this blog post is too girly sounding" or "that blog design is very ruggedly masculine".

Rather: "this blog post is very nuturing in a maternal manner" or "that blog design is reminiscent of a stereotypical quality designated 'manliness' as based on prevalent cultural expectations of current privileged Western upper economic scale social hegemony".

Not: "\\as a boy/\as a girl/\//blogger---you must do this".

But: "\\as a boy/\as a girl/\//blogger---your audience might expect you to do this".

Anyone may feel free to contribute their experiences to this discussion.

Fresh insights, accumulated observations, and random hunches are welcome.

I'm going to keep this Female vs. Male topic going, with multiple, though not necessarily sequential, posts on the topic.

Female vs. Male online shopping.

Female vs. Male online combat.

Female vs. Male web design.

Female vs. Male blog topics.

Female vs. Male forum interaction.

Female vs. Male blog RSS feed provision.

Female vs. Male use of photos and art in blogs.

Female vs. Male tendency to ban or blacklist.

Female vs. Male attendance at blog conferences.

Female vs. Male online writing styles.

...and etc.

Think about dude vs. missy blogs.

Do lady bloggers act more sensitive about language used in comments?

Do lady bloggers have less tolerance toward rebels and contrarian opinions?

Do lady bloggers have more patience toward expressed emotional problems?

Do gentlemen bloggers have longer and more text oriented posts?

Do gentlemen bloggers mention family less than lady bloggers?

Do gentlemen bloggers tend to attack flamers more harshly than sister bloggers?

Stay tuned to the Vaspers the Grate family of blogs.

You shan't regret it. I primrose.

[signed] Steven Streight aka Contemplative Garden Hoe, the Web Usability Gardener.



Voix said...

Hmmm. Well, I agree that men and women have radically different communication styles -- so it would go without saying that we'd have different blogging styles too. Fun topic. Keep it up.

steven edward streight said...

Professor Tannen has some insights that I find fairly valid and well pondered.

She says women tend to tilt their heads meaningfully. I notice that women talk in near whispers. Face to face, they do act very sweet, not as a totally sincere gesture, but as a social ritual.

Men seem more blustery, loud, gruff, direct, sarcastic, brutal, domineering.

Women are not that sarcastic, are they?

And so few women comedians, and female standups tend to laugh at their own jokes, along with the audience, like its communal, while me tell the joke sober faced, detached, deadpan.

carrie said...

men and women do not inherently have different communication styles... they are culturally scripted.

steven edward streight said...

Yes, culturally scripted, in both overt and subtle ways.

I think research with feral children, who were separated from parents and human society, and lived with animals, raised by wolves, etc....

have shown how no behaviors are "hard wired" or genetically determined.

Feral children display nothing human at all. They are total animals, and cannot ever learn to talk, for example.

I also do not believe in "genes" of alcoholism or addictive behavior tendencies.

All craving is a choice, that becomes hardened by repetition, until it "seems" "inevitable" and even "inescapable".

Addiction is never a disease, always a choice, even when the opposite choice "seems" impossible.

There is a Point of No Return, wherein the craving is total master, and the personality has vanished, leaving only a paltry residue of a real person who used to exist, but has now been pretty much replaced by the craving and its object.

The "hopeless" addict, or unconvertable child molester, etc.

Rapists who go to prison, 5 years later they get out, and immediately rape someone again and return to prison, for example.

Even speech is a learned behavior, even though we are born with the ability to make language sounds and the brain sector wherein language is learned. But that sector atrophies and withers away, supposedly never to regenerate, if language is not taught at early ages (0 to 3 years?).

Dan-E said...

i've read several studies about the differences in communication between men and women. my favorite was one that stated women speak an average of 7,000 words a day, compared to men, who speak only 2,000. because of this women also tend of have a better grasp of the english language and tend to speak more eloquently and descriptively. (to which most guys would respond "well, duh.")

this obseration is basely soley on the few blogs that i follow but i've noticed that blogs written by women tend to read more like diaries than men's. they're less reticent about sharing personal information. it goes beyond what happens on a certain day, they go into what they were feeling, why they did whatever, it's quite interesting, actually.

guys on the other hand, sometimes go into detail but it feels more like play by play commentary.

you have to love that variety.

steven edward streight said...

Many men passively, except when there's a touchgoal or whatever they call it, a swishie?, when a "score" is accomplished by the "all your base(ball) are belonged to us" opposing team, or their favored team, they passively soak up spectator sports...

...which includes the passive intake of a running sports commentary, especially more literate when it's a radio broadcast, needing words to form the mental picture.

Thus, a gentleman blogger should listen to radio broadcasts at the same time he watches a televised coverage of a game, to get the verbal overcompensations as a guide to blog writing, which is largely text about what is not shown, not optically present.