Friday, July 08, 2005

Blog Family Composing

Blog Family Composing is a special online community building skill that's based on genuine desire to help and protect online friends.

It begins with a comment, an email, a link.

You leave a comment at someone's blog or vice versa.

You receive an email from, or send one to, another blogger.

Or another blogger links to you in a post or a blogroll, and you discover the fact through a vanity search or other link tracking method.

A conversation begins. Questions, compliments, critiques, warnings, advice, and other high value content is passed back and forth. A personal fondness or affinity develops.

Before long, a solid alliance is formed.

This is how a blog family is composed.

I say "composed" because it's like a musical composition, or a work of literature.

A blog family is "composed" of textual interactions and sharing of files, information, links, and opinions.

Reciprocal commenting is ensured. That is, when they post a comment on your blog, you try to always return the favor by posting a comment on their blog.

You respond swiftly to their comments at your posts, which can transform the blog comment function into a slow chat room type environment, or an alternative email-like messaging service.

Brotherly, sisterly, maternal, paternal feelings are aroused. Your circle of regular and occasional commenters becomes like a family, a blog family. Even lurkers, those who never or just rarely comment, seem close, silently following your blog.

One thing I like about the Easy Stats "persons online currently at this blog" is that I'm aware of the presence of others at my blog. Often, right after publishing a new post, I'll see that one or several persons are at the blog.

Even though I don't know who specifically they are, just the raw awareness of visitors present to view a new post, this is quite nice.

As you compose your blog family, by interacting with visitors who become less anonymous and more personally real with each transaction, you begin to think about them and talk about them offline.

You tell people about your blog family members, "my blogger ally" or "my online friend". While you may know only a few photos and the text they type into emails or blog comments, you feel very familiar with them.

You begin to feel not only connected, but protective.

If someone posts a comment on their blog that is unkind, unhelpfully critical, mean-spirited in a sadistic manner, or just plain wrong, you rise to defend your blog family member.

You won't defend your blog family's wrong ideas, but you will help them see their errors, correct their mistakes, and ward off bullies and flamers who merely seek to be hostile to others.

Are you composing a blog family?

Are you a regular or somewhat frequent commenter at various blogs?

Do you cultivate friendships or at least some kind of alliances with the people who post comments at your blogs?

I'd love to hear about your methods, experiences, and opinions.

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[signed] Steven Streight aka Vaspers the Grate



carrie said...

"a real seeker, one who is not false to himself, will always meet with the truth, with the real, because it is his own real faith, his own sincerity in earnest seeking that will becom his torch. the real teacher is within, that lover of reality is one's own sincere self, and if one is really seeking truth sooner or later one will certainly find a true teacher."
The Inner Life
by Hazrat Inayat Khan

steven edward streight said...

Not false to the truth he stumbles upon, nor to his duty to the other, which pre-dates his own existence, is always already there and in force, and provides the basis of his own consciousness, which is interactive.

MARYBETH said...

My Blogsta's =)





steven edward streight said...

Thank you.

Emmanuel Levinas, a Jewish philosopher/metaphysician friend of Jacques Derrida, spoke, or wrote, often of obligation to the other as being the basis of true consciousness.

This duty to serve others out of compassion is opposed to obsession with self and selfish interests.

Then J. Krishnamurti always pointed out how the source of suffering and war is division, which starts with any separation category: white vs black, human vs animal, male vs female, old vs young, America vs China, N. Vietnam vs S. Vietnam, Republican vs Democrat, Christian vs Hindu, etc.

Any mental category that is imposed on any object is a source of division, thus conflict, thus hate.

So we know there are categories imposed by human thinking, but we need not be imprisoned in such concepts, and we can see them as mostly arbitrary and superficial, mostly entirely meaningless, esp. the nationalism and political cul-de-sacs.

carrie said...

i am learning that although they may be arbitrary or unreal, the categories we construct are still applicable and real in a psychological sense....
and also: without them there would be no dialogue.

steven edward streight said...

I think the abrasive, antagonistic divisions are blocking dialogue.

The diversity and cultural differences are not division.

Division, as I use it, means separation based on superficial or inessential aspects.

Like this:

"You're interesting because you have a different way of religion, cooking, dressing, language, music."


"You're inferior [sub-human, not to be trusted, stupid, frightening, savage, barbarian, despicable, etc.], because you're different in religion, cooking, etc."